take back every night!
Submitted by icy red on Mon, 04/28/2008 - 8:49pm.Last Thursday was my local Take Back the Night. I've been going to that event for five years straight, and this is the first year I've been able to get on the mic and say I'm a survivor of date rape/sexual abuse/incest in front of my community. I always expect these big, instaneaous liberating revelations each time I cross a major mountain path during my healing; then get really fucking depressed when I'm still left feeling lifeless, lethargic, and shitty.
I wish this wasn't so a part of my life everyday. That drinking juice or some bilboard or random conversation didn't trigger me. I wish I could fall asleep without having brutal nightmares of getting raped or chased. I've built up a fortress around me, because I lost all sense of trust. I lost the connection with my gutheart. I lost the deep connection I had with the forest and my imagination and acknowledging other planes in the universe. I feel like I attract extra destructive people. I try to pick positive, empathetic people to be around, but unless they had experiences like my own, I feel like I'm being burdensome after so long. I feel like I'm a stranger to myself. I'm so tired of being anxiety-ridden. I don't know how to let go of this. I just started acknowledging these experiences in my life for what they are. I just began mourning. I want to feel complete and confident. I am afraid of simple things people take for granted. I don't want to be constantly angry and on the defense. And so many kids I know think I'm fine. I can handle my own because I'm always busy with some project or activism. But I feel so out of step, so alone, so hopeless. I need love and don't know how to love or forgive myself. Things are going by so fast and I feel like a charred tree struck by lightning. I need birds and mosses to start nesting and growing in me. I need something to keep me together.













Hey there, I can really
Hey there, I can really relate to what you're saying. I have been involved in reclaim the night in the UK and attended a feminist conference only last week but I have never had the strength to speak of my own experiences of abuse at any ofthese events. Itis something I have thought about a lot lately and I just wanted to say that I admire your courage in speaking out and hope that one day I will find the strength to do the same. I too am involved in a lot of activism and I wonder sometimes if it is so I dont have to focus on my own pain, not that I dont believe in what I am doing but it gives me something practical to focus on, gives me the roots that I sometimes feel I lack. Try not to be too hard on yourself, it sounds like you are doing great xx
Thank you so much for your
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I hope you realize in your heart you are a survivor and you don't have to speak out until that brave heart tells you to. I really like what you said about how activism grounds you. At one point in my life, I used to take on too much for other people or I was scared to let people help me, get too close. Healing from abuse is actually healing my relationships with other people which gets us healing the community. I realized personal/political isn't dualistic, it's holistic. Sounds really simple, but it's been a big deal to me, since I used to feel some lame socialized puritanical guilt for taking care of myself and thinking that should be compartmentalized/cut off from works that see my convictions manifest. It's all works from the heart, in essence.. Stay strong!
Hey, a fellow Icarus user
Hey, a fellow Icarus user here.
I am in solidarity with you.
I do not know your experiences, but I am also a survivor of incest & rape (not to imply that our experiences are the same).
A big loving heart and a hug, and I hope you're okay. Power to you for your strength and resilence; you are remarkable.
<3 leslie
"Some people call me damaged, but those who really know me say I'm resilient."
- Carson
I wish I can hug you back
I wish I can hug you back through this space box. Thank you so very much. I've actually been feeling gradually a little better each day. And more imaginative. And more like I'm finally on some sort of path, even if it is spiraling.
By any chance...would you know of any more zines that are like Support?